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Four Phases of Relational Intelligence

Dr Dharius Daniels·Change Church

Thursday, March 23, 2023

Part of Relational Intelligence

Summary

God operates in phases, working incrementally to lead us into the full, thriving life He intended for us. To experience thriving relationships, we must embrace four sequential phases of relational intelligence: reflection, evaluation, clarification, and acceptance. By examining our emotions, evaluating real fruit, and placing people in their proper relational categories, we can step out of frustration and settle for nothing less than God's best.

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Themes

Relational IntelligenceIncremental GrowthEmotional AwarenessDiscernment and EvaluationHealthy Boundaries

Pastor's Points

1.Reflection
2.Evaluation
3.Clarification
4.Acceptance

Key Points

1.God acts incrementally rather than incompletely, taking us through phases to bring about His ultimate promises.
2.The scripture is our ultimate blueprint to thriving in every area of life, including how we manage our relationships.
3.The first phase of relational intelligence is Reflection, which requires taking an intentional pause to examine how we honestly feel about our relationships.
4.Emotions act as the voice of our soul and serve like a check engine light on a car—they are indicators that prompt us to investigate deeper.
5.Frustration is often a key signal revealing that we have unmet or unexpressed expectations.
6.The second phase is Evaluation, which involves fruit inspection to observe actions without passing eternal judgment on a person.
7.Evaluating the fruit of a relationship allows us to discern whether a connection is healthy or harmful to our well-being.
8.The third phase is Clarification, where we categorize people based on actuality rather than potential (e.g., friends, associates, assignments, or advisors).
9.The fourth phase is Acceptance, where we choose to live and operate out of reality and truth rather than false expectations.

Sermon Moments

“God doesn't act incompletely, but from time to time He will act incrementally.”

“If it isn't finished, then God isn't done.”

“Some people can't step into success because they skip steps.”

“Your emotions are the voice of your soul; they are the equivalent to the check engine light on a car.”

“Frustration is an indication that I got some failed expectations.”

“You cannot improve what you don't evaluate.”

“Evaluating your fruit and coming to conclusions about what kind of tree you are is not judging.”

“Relationship management is not relationship management—relationship management is life management.”

This Week

Take an intentional, quiet pause this week to reflect honestly on how you feel in your closest relationships.
When you feel frustration, ask yourself what unmet expectation that emotion is pointing toward.
Practice fruit inspection by evaluating actions and outcomes in key relationships without condemning the individual.
Assess your current season of life to determine what emotional, mental, or schedule capacity you realistically have.
Review your primary relationships and properly categorize key individuals into friends, associates, assignments, or advisors.
Initiate connection with trusted people who align with where God is leading you in this season.
Filter life advice and relational principles through scripture rather than popular culture or personal opinion.

Remember This

Thriving in relationships requires walking through reflection, evaluation, clarification, and acceptance so we can live according to truth rather than frustration.

A Challenge for You

Do not just take notes and move on—commit to reflecting, evaluating, clarifying, and accepting truth in your relationships this week, because relationship management is life management.

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