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Summary
Themes
Pastor's Points
Key Points
- 1.1. Use your eyes by paying attention to your real-life experiences and what people consistently reveal through their actions.
- 2.2. Use your heart by paying attention to your spiritual inner witness and intuition guided by the Holy Spirit.
- 3.3. Use your ears by listening closely to people's words, because out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.
- 4.4. Relational intelligence is the ability to define, align, and manage the relationships in your life so that those who mean the most get the best of you.
- 5.5. Failing to exercise relational intelligence leads to future regret, unnecessary emotional wounds, and wasted time, talent, and treasure.
- 6.6. Discernment is the capability to recognize fruit and respond accordingly, distinguishing what is beneficial or toxic for your specific life assignment.
- 7.7. Inspecting fruit is not judging a tree's value before God; it is determining whether that fruit is healthy or harmful for you.
Sermon Moments
“If I don't have relational intelligence today, I will have regret tomorrow.”
“Boundaries don't protect you from relationships, they protect you for relationships.”
“You can't have love without having vulnerability, but there's a difference between vulnerability and stupidity.”
“Recognizing what fruit a tree is producing isn't judging the tree. I'm trying to determine whether or not the fruit is bad for me.”
“A person's potential is an indication of what they can be; it is not always an indication of what they will be.”
“When someone shows you themselves, believe it. God often answers your prayers through your experience.”
“At some point, a person's mouth is going to tell off on their heart.”
“Don't operate in your present with a person based on not who they are, but who they used to be.”
This Week
Remember This
Discernment requires actively using your eyes, heart, and ears to inspect fruit so you can set healthy boundaries and manage your relationships wisely.
A Challenge for You
We're going to be fruit inspectors and we're going to see the favor of God on our life and on our relationships in a unique way when we steward those relationships well. Use your eyes, use your heart, and use your ears in Jesus' name.These are personal sermon notes shared to help you remember the message — not a replacement for Scripture, your church, or your pastors.
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