Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.
Summary
Themes
Pastor's Points
Key Points
- 1.There are unexamined things about ourselves that operate below our awareness and end up causing harm.
- 2.A toxic trait is a recurring way of thinking, reacting, and behaving shaped by unexamined influences.
- 3.We must not confuse something being dormant in a peaceful season with being truly delivered.
- 4.When God-given strengths or spiritual gifts are co-opted by low character, they turn into tools for manipulation.
- 5.Even when toxic behavior gets you what you want in the short term, it always costs more than you are willing to pay.
- 6.Unaddressed toxic traits drain our energy and force us into full-time crisis management, destroying our productivity.
- 7.Unresolved toxic patterns eventually damage, displace, and distance the very people we love most.
Sermon Moments
“There are things about me that I can't see that are hurting me.”
“We confuse something being dormant with us being delivered.”
“If a strength is misused, then the strength becomes a weakness.”
“Why are you doing dumb stuff with a smart gift?”
“How long am I going to keep making somebody else pay the invoice for my undelt with toxic traits?”
“Attention is currency; that is why we say we pay attention.”
“A toxic trait doesn't just cost you what you have at some point; it costs you who you have.”
This Week
Remember This
Even when toxic traits temporarily yield the results you want, they will always cost you far more than you want to pay.
A Challenge for You
Ask the Holy Spirit to open the eyes of your heart, reveal hidden traits that surface during high-pressure seasons, and help you arrest those patterns before they cost you your peace, your productivity, and your people.These are personal sermon notes shared to help you remember the message — not a replacement for Scripture, your church, or your pastors.
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