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Honor & Blessing – What Makes a Man? – Week 3

The Village Church • May 12, 2025 • 55 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

In this concluding message of the series, Pastor Matt Chandler explores how a heart anchored in the fear of the Lord produces a flourishing family and community. True fear of the Lord consists of reverence, submission, and delight in God, which transforms a man from the inside out. From this foundation, a godly man honors his wife as a co-heir of grace, grounds his children in their God-given identity, and uses his strength to serve and build what outlives him.

Themes

Biblical ManhoodFear of the LordMarriage & StewardshipParenting & IdentityLegacy & Servant Leadership

Pastor's Points

1.

A man who fears the Lord blesses his wife with honor.

2.

A man who fears the Lord blesses his children with identity.

3.

A man who fears the Lord blesses his community with his strength.

Key Points

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A biblical man's foundation is built upon a genuine fear of the Lord, which is defined by reverence, submission, and deep spiritual delight.
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Reverence means recognizing that God is holy and set apart; Jesus is our friend, but He is no one's homeboy.
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Delight is the true engine of spiritual growth because delight drives discipline far more effectively than duty or rule-following.
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A godly husband blesses his wife with honor by treating her as an equal co-heir of grace rather than someone beneath him, knowing that failing to treasure her hinders his prayers.
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Words carry power to bring life or death; a husband should intentionally speak words of life that celebrate his wife's beauty and affirm her spiritual wisdom and strength.
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A husband is called to protect his wife without possessing or controlling her, recognizing that she belongs to God and he is merely a steward of her flourishing.
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Fathers bless their children with identity by speaking blessings over them, grounding them in God's truth rather than worldly accomplishments like athletics or status.

Sermon Moments

“Jesus might be your friend, but he ain't nobody's homeboy.”

“Delight drives discipline.”

“A father's blessing is a shield against shame and insecurity.”

“My wife belongs to God. She belongs to Him. And by His grace, He has made me a steward, not an owner.”

“A strong man doesn't stir up strife. A weak, cowardly man does.”

“A man blesses his community with his strength by planting trees he may never sit under.”

“Life change isn't white-knuckle discipline. The fear of the Lord—reverence, submission, delight—changes us from the inside out.”

This Week

Humbly ask your wife for forgiveness if you have fallen short in honoring her, and commit to speaking regular words of life and affirmation over her strength and beauty.

Consistently seek your spouse's wisdom and spiritual insight in decisions, recognizing her as an equal co-heir of God's grace.

Intentionally speak blessings over your children, naming and affirming the unique spiritual gifts, character, and capacities God has placed in them.

Establish spiritual rites of passage or family traditions that write legacy letters and call young people into godly manhood or womanhood.

Examine your habits and put to death sinful patterns so you can honestly invite your family and others to "imitate me as I imitate Christ."

Step into broken places in your community, family, or church by using your practical and spiritual strength to protect, serve, and intercede for others.

Focus on cultivating deep reverence, submission, and delight in God rather than relying on surface-level willpower or behavioral modification.

Remember This

True biblical manhood flows from a heart anchored in the fear of the Lord, enabling a man to bless his wife with honor, his children with identity, and his community with strength.

A Challenge for You

What would it look like today for you to leave not with a checklist of things you got to work on, but a new right-related relationship with God that transforms you over time into this kind of man? Submit, revere, and delight, and watch God work.

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