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Finding Hope in a Dry Season

One Community Church • Mar 1, 2026 • 50 min

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Summary

Relationships inevitably go through dry seasons of famine as well as periods of overwhelming success, but it is our response to these seasons—not the circumstance itself—that determines relational health. Rather than running to temporary relief or allowing busy schedules to fill vital spiritual and relational wells with dirt, God calls us to remain faithful and intentionally redig those wells. A thriving marriage is built on persistent work and maintaining God's order of priorities: establishing worship first, covenant commitment second, and intimacy or provision third.

Themes

Covenant vs. Contract in MarriageFaithful Persistence in Dry SeasonsGod's Priority Order for RelationshipsOvercoming Distraction and BusynessSpiritual Restoration

Pastor's Points

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Five wells to maintain: 1. Spiritual Well, 2. Emotional Well, 3. Physical Well, 4. Recreational Well, 5. Commitment Well.

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Three pillars of a healthy marriage: 1. The Altar (Worship First), 2. The Tent (Commitment Second), 3. The Well (Provision and Intimacy Third).

Key Points

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Famines and dry seasons in relationships are inevitable, but it is our response to the famine—not the famine itself—that damages a marriage.
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When difficult seasons arise, people frequently react through panic, escape, self-protection, blame, silence, or numbing themselves through distraction.
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True peace is not escaping to create an insulated wall of comfort, but resting in Jesus Christ in the midst of the storm.
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God promises His presence before His provision; staying faithful in dry places allows Him to act as the stabilizing guide in our boat.
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Unmanaged success and busyness can fill the wells of relationship health with dirt just as easily as adversity.
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Believers must intentionally maintain five vital relationship wells: the spiritual, emotional, physical, recreational, and commitment wells.
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When relationship wells become filled with dirt, healthy couples do not go searching for new wells; they persistently redig and restore the existing ones.
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Sermon Moments

“Famines don't ruin marriages. Our response to famines is what ruins marriages.”

“White-water rafting illustration: The presence of the raft guide does not eliminate the rapids, but it keeps you steady while navigating through them.”

“Relief versus repair: Relief distracts and feels good temporarily, but repair confronts issues and builds long-term strength.”

“Success filling wells: The very promotions or blessings we pray for can overcrowd our calendars and subtly fill our relational wells with dirt.”

“Dirt in the well: Just because a relationship well has been filled with dirt does not mean the water is gone; it just means work is required to clear it out.”

“Healthy marriages aren't perfect; they are persistent in apologizing, forgiving, and repeatedly choosing each other.”

“God's priority order: Altar (worship) first, tent (covenant) second, well (provision/intimacy) third. Flipping the order creates instability.”

This Week

Commit to staying and working through dry seasons rather than looking for quick exit strategies or temporary relief.

Begin praying out loud together daily, starting with even just 30 seconds before going to bed.

Practice a 10-minute 'no-phone check-in' each evening to ask deep questions beyond surface tasks.

Express physical affection intentionally through daily touch, hand-holding, or a six-second kiss.

Plan regular date nights and shared fun experiences to keep friendship and joy active in your relationship.

Remove exit-strategy language and absolute statements like 'I'm done' or 'you always' during conflicts.

Re-evaluate family priorities to ensure worship (the altar) and covenant commitment (the tent) precede provision and entertainment (the well).

Remember This

When relationships face dry seasons or busyness, we must resist running away and persistently redig our relational wells while keeping worship and covenant commitment first.

A Challenge for You

Father, help us find our contentment in you alone. Help every person keep identifying the well that they need to dig in to make their marriage more fruitful, redigging wells over and over again and never giving up.

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