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What To Do When You Like Someone

Fresh Life Church • Apr 20, 2026 • 43 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

In this opening message from Song of Solomon, Pastor Levi Lusko teaches that physical and romantic attraction are natural, God-given gifts to be celebrated within His design for marriage. True staying power in a relationship requires attraction with traction—a deeper connection built on godly character, integrity, and wise counsel from a faithful community. Even when facing personal insecurity or cultural pressure, believers are called to hold fast to purity and trust God to rewrite their love story.

Themes

God's Design for Relationships and MarriageRomantic Attraction and Human SexualityCharacter and IntegrityThe Importance of Godly Community and CounselOvercoming Insecurity through Moral PurityGod's Power to Restore and Rewrite Brokenness

Pastor's Points

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Point 1: Attraction with Traction

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Point 2: Insecurity with Integrity

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CRUSH Checklist: C - Christian, R - Reliable, U - Under the skin, S - Servant, H - Honor

Key Points

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God's design for human marriage and romantic attraction is a good, God-given gift that should be celebrated rather than felt ashamed of.
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Romantic feelings can feel overwhelming and intoxicating, which is why attraction needs traction—a foundation built on godly character rather than superficial looks.
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External beauty, charm, and physical fitness naturally fade over time, making internal righteousness and spiritual maturity the true staying power of marriage.
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Because romantic feelings can impair objective judgment, it is essential to process relationship dynamics within a wise, godly community and seek trusted counsel.
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Personal insecurity about appearance or social status should never drive a believer to compromise their moral integrity or lower God's standards to secure a partner.
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True worth is found in being created in God's image, allowing believers to stand firm in personal purity instead of conforming to cultural pressure.
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God is sovereign and present in our lives and relationships even when His name is not explicitly mentioned, working behind the scenes to guide and redeem.
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Sermon Moments

“Astronaut Reed Wiseman named a crater on the dark side of the moon after his deceased wife, illustrating how God can speak a new name over deep craters of loss in our lives.”

“If the plain sense of the scripture makes sense, don't go looking for any other sense, or it won't make sense.”

“The Song of Solomon was historically called the most neglected book in scripture—about a subject almost all of us have experienced the pain of.”

“Ancient rabbis forbade reading Song of Solomon until age 30, rating it PG-30 because it was considered too hot to handle.”

“It is not bad for you to want to marry someone that you're attracted to—it will help!”

“Charm is deceitful, beauty is passing... attraction needs traction because beauty fades, but character gets better with time.”

“There are plenty of people in this world with a beautiful face and an ugly soul.”

“Director Ridley Scott on movie casting: Getting the casting right on the front end solves so many problems your future self would otherwise have to deal with down the road.”

This Week

Celebrate romantic desires as a God-given gift while intentionally directing them to honor God.

Look beyond external charm and physical appearance when evaluating a partner, prioritizing internal godly character and integrity (attraction with traction).

Process new relationships and romantic feelings in community by seeking counsel from mature, trusted believers.

Refuse to compromise your biblical values or moral purity out of insecurity or fear of remaining single.

Anchor your identity and personal worth in being made in God's image rather than measuring yourself against social media standards.

Run potential partners through the CRUSH checklist (Christian, Reliable, Under the skin depth, Servant heart, Honor) before making serious commitments.

Bring past relationship heartbreaks or craters to God, trusting Him to redeem and rewrite your story through the cross.

Remember This

Lasting romantic relationships require more than physical attraction—they need attraction with traction, rooted in godly character, wise counsel, and uncompromised integrity.

A Challenge for You

God can speak a new name over an old crater in your heart; bring your relationship pain to the power of the cross, commit to God's best design for your love life, and surrender your heart to Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord.

These are personal sermon notes shared to help you remember the message — not a replacement for Scripture, your church, or your pastors.