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Tongue Traps

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Aug 28, 2025 • 56 min

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Summary

In part four of the Word Wars series, Dr. Dharius Daniels teaches on the essential role of verbal discipline in a believer's spiritual growth. Focusing on Ephesians 4:29, he warns against unwholesome speech—likened to rotten fruit—which contaminates our souls and harms those around us. By learning to restrain destructive language and speak words that build others up, believers protect their well-being, witness, and work.

Themes

Verbal DisciplineSpiritual FormationGrace and AbilitySelf-Control and DominionChristian Witness

Pastor's Points

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Protect our well-being

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Protect our witness

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Protect our work

Key Points

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Protecting ourselves from the tongue trap protects our well-being, as guarding our lips preserves our lives.
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Avoiding tongue traps protects our Christian witness to outsiders when our speech is seasoned with grace.
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Exercising verbal discipline protects our work, because relationships, teams, and marriages thrive or flounder based on communication.
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Developing as a disciple requires developing discipline, because following Jesus is a commitment to be formed and shaped by Him.
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Grace is not just unearned favor; it is unearned assistance and God-given power that grants stamina for spiritual assignments.
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True dominion involves exercising authority over our own appetites, attitudes, and actions rather than attempting to dominate others.
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Unwholesome speech in scripture refers to decay and corruption—like rotten or spoiled fruit that contaminates the soul.

Sermon Moments

“Becoming a follower of Jesus is not a commitment to become a fan of Jesus. Becoming a follower of Jesus is a commitment to be formed by Jesus.”

“Grace is not just unearned favor. It is unearned assistance. It is not just when God gives you extensions; it's when God gives you ability.”

“Dominion isn't just about authority over animals, land, and culture. It's about authority over appetites, attitudes, and actions.”

“Preaching and teaching without practicality produces Pharisees—people who speak high but live low.”

“The word that Paul uses in this text for unwholesome is a word that we would use to describe rotten fruit.”

“Fools find no pleasure in understanding, but they delight in airing their own opinion.”

“God wants us to see our speech and our words as tools that He uses on the construction project of other people's lives.”

“Just like you season stuff with salt, you need to sprinkle grace on your words.”

This Week

Pause before speaking to evaluate whether your words pass the helpfulness filter and will build the listener up.

Refrain from expressing public opinions or corrections on matters you have not thoroughly investigated.

Take moments of anger or strong emotion directly to the Lord to process rather than giving full vent to rage.

Ask God daily for His unearned assistance (grace) to strengthen your resistance muscle against undisciplined speech.

Intentionally season challenging conversations with grace and salt rather than harshness or cynicism.

Guard your witness around non-believers by maintaining thoughtful, wise, and grace-filled speech.

Practice self-leadership by bringing your speech, appetites, and attitudes into alignment with Christ's authority.

Remember This

Developing discipline over our words is essential to spiritual formation and protects our personal well-being, Christian witness, and daily work from destructive decay.

A Challenge for You

May God give you and I the grace and the wisdom to avoid the tongue trap and to use our words wisely.

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