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Relationship Advice I wish EVERYONE Knew!

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Mar 22, 2024 • 9 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

In this message, Dr. Dharius Daniels addresses the vital difference between physically having someone in your life and emotionally keeping their heart. By exploring four practical pillars—curiosity, consideration, chasing, and commitment—he encourages believers to actively cherish their partners and avoid the trap of relational familiarity. Ultimately, building a healthy, consistent marriage requires hard work and heart work aimed at glorifying God and reigniting hope in others.

Themes

Emotional IntimacyCherishing Your SpouseOvercoming Relational FamiliarityRelational PursuitConsistency and SecurityGlorifying God Through Marriage

Pastor's Points

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Curiosity

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Consideration

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Chasing

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Commitment

Key Points

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Curiosity: Willingness to consistently explore where your partner is emotionally, bringing clarity and defeating familiarity.
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Consideration: Giving your spouse their proper place second only to God and considering how your actions or inactions impact them.
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Chasing: Continuously pursuing your partner's heart so that both of you benefit from the best version of one another.
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Commitment: Providing emotional consistency because your partner's sense of security is built on predictability.
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Emotional presence matters just as much as physical presence, as a person can physically remain in a house while their heart has left.
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Relational familiarity causes us to treat a rare, God-given spouse as if they were ordinary, blocking the full blessing God placed in them.
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Familiarity blocks honor and keeps hidden gifts inside a person from ever being pulled out, just as familiarity hindered miracles in Jesus' hometown.

Sermon Moments

“Some people leave even though they never leave true; a part of them is gone, and they're staying because it's easier.”

“Curiosity brings clarity, and clarity addresses the enemy of relational familiarity, where rare things become common.”

“Familiarity blocks what's in the other person for you. There is something in the person you're with that can never get pulled out if we don't honor it.”

“Don't worship me—don't put me in God's place—but after God, it should be me if we're married.”

“My security is based on your predictability. Home is the one place I don't want to have to wonder.”

“If your only motivation is having a great relationship, you're still not going to do this work; but do it so God is glorified.”

This Week

Practice curiosity daily by asking your partner thoughtful questions to discover where they are emotionally and spiritually.

Guard against relational familiarity by routinely reflecting on and thanking God for the rare qualities in your spouse.

Ensure your home is a sanctuary where your spouse feels seen, valued, and safe rather than questioned or dismissed.

Demonstrate consideration by evaluating how your choices, habits, or neglect directly affect your partner's daily well-being.

Intentionally chase your spouse's heart through regular dating, affection, and emotional pursuit, just as you did at the beginning.

Provide emotional security by maintaining consistent, predictable character rather than fluctuating between hot and cold.

Pray together as a couple, asking God to use your marriage as a testimony that inspires hope for relationships in others.

Remember This

Cherishing your partner requires continuous effort through curiosity, consideration, chasing, and commitment so that your relationship reflects God's heart and brings Him glory.

A Challenge for You

Ask God to use your relationship to reignite hope in the hearts of others concerning the possibility of a God-honoring, loving marriage.

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