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Men, Stop Tearing Down the House

Dr. Conway Edwards

One Community Church • Mar 9, 2025 • 52 min

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Summary

In this sermon, Dr. Conway Edwards challenges men to lead their families by surrendering their lives to the lordship of Jesus Christ and loving their wives as Christ loved the church. Drawing from Ephesians 5 and Genesis 2, he explains that marriage is a divine one-flesh union where a husband's greatest joy should come from watching his wife flourish spiritually. Believers are encouraged to eliminate behaviors that create insecurity in marriage and instead model Christlike sacrifice, intentional leadership, and unwavering commitment.

Themes

Sacrificial Love in MarriageBiblical HusbandhoodOne Flesh UnionSpiritual LeadershipSpirit-Filled Living

Pastor's Points

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Six Things Women Wish Men Knew: 1. Women enjoy multitasking and multi-thinking. 2. Women find intimacy in conversation. 3. Women want you to listen first and problem solve later. 4. Women need you to show up and find safety in consistency. 5. Women desire to be talked to, not talked at. 6. Women still have a soft side even when they act strong.

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Ten Ways Husbands Create Insecurity in Marriage: 1. Being emotionally unavailable. 2. Neglecting to provide or plan for the future. 3. Comparing her to other women. 4. Failing to follow through on promises. 5. Being harsh with words or tone. 6. Flirting or being too friendly with other women. 7. Not defending her in front of others. 8. Keeping secrets or hiding things. 9. Dismissing her feelings or concerns. 10. Making her feel like she is not a priority.

Key Points

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Six things women wish men knew: 1) They engage in multitasking and multi-thinking (25 windows open), 2) They find intimacy in conversation, 3) They want men to listen first and problem-solve later, 4) They find safety in consistency, 5) They desire to be talked to rather than talked at, and 6) They retain a soft side even when acting strong.
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Ten ways husbands create insecurity in marriage: 1) Being emotionally unavailable, 2) Neglecting financial and future planning, 3) Comparing her to other women, 4) Breaking promises, 5) Being harsh with words or tone, 6) Flirting or maintaining side relationships, 7) Failing to defend her, 8) Keeping secrets or hiding things, 9) Dismissing her feelings, and 10) Making her third place behind job and hobbies.
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Believers must walk carefully and wisely, making decisions today with long-term spiritual impact on future generations in mind.
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Husbands must study Scripture directly for themselves rather than relying on external media snippets or secondhand spiritual teaching.
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Fulfilling the biblical standard for marriage cannot be accomplished in human effort; it requires daily empowerment by the Holy Spirit.
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God commands husbands to love their wives with the same sacrificial care that Christ demonstrated for the church.
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A husband's primary source of earthly joy should come from watching his wife grow spiritually and mature under his loving leadership.

Sermon Moments

“They have 25 windows open at one time while we have one or two, maximum three.”

“It's your job to know the word of God for yourself. Quit eating everybody else's word and know the word for yourself so you know what God's will is.”

“You cannot pull off what he's going to ask you in verse 25 in the flesh. You have to be powered by the Holy Spirit.”

“The number one source of influence is not you talking to her, it's you modeling it for her and showing her how to bring all of life under the lordship of Jesus Christ.”

“When you join together God says, 'I don't see you as two anymore because that rib came from you to create her.' So now He doesn't see you as two, He sees you as one.”

“You got too many brothers walking around with the fire extinguisher not realizing that it's expired... because you forgot to check to make sure that it's up to date.”

“Quit playing God and enjoy the one He blessed you with.”

This Week

Spend dedicated daily time reading the Bible directly to understand God's will for your life and family.

Ask the Holy Spirit daily for grace and power to love your spouse sacrificially rather than relying on your own strength.

Set aside focused time to listen to your spouse's heart without jumping immediately into problem-solving mode.

Model Christlike humility and obedience in your daily habits so your family is inspired by your spiritual walk.

Re-evaluate your schedule and priorities to ensure your spouse is placed first on earth, ahead of career and hobbies.

Practice complete transparency in your marriage by removing secrets, hidden phones, or evasive communication.

Actively defend, honor, and cherish your spouse in public and private settings throughout the week.

Remember This

God calls husbands to love their wives sacrifically as Christ loved the church, finding joy in their spouse's spiritual growth and prioritizing their marriage above all other earthly pursuits.

A Challenge for You

Heavenly Father, fill every man in this house with Your Spirit afresh. Remind us of Your standard and give us a new vision for how we can love our wives just as You loved us. Teach us how to find joy in bringing all of life under the lordship of Jesus Christ, and help us by the power of the Holy Spirit to model the way and fight for our families.

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