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I Want My Lick Back

Dr Dharius Daniels

Sunday, August 11, 2024

Summary

In this message, Dr. Dharius Daniels teaches believers how to navigate painful people problems without resorting to revenge or falling into bitterness. Looking at the Book of Nahum and God's boundary setting with Assyria, Dr. Daniels highlights that access is a privilege rather than a right. True spiritual growth requires establishing biblical boundaries to protect your heart from continual reinjury, choosing to get better rather than getting even.

Key Scriptures

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Nahum 2:13↗Genesis 3:1-24↗Deuteronomy 6:4↗1 Corinthians 7:12-16↗Job 2:7-10↗

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Themes

Relational BoundariesHandling Offenses and BetrayalForgiveness vs. Relational AccessGuarding the HeartOvercoming Bitterness and RevengeBiblical Oneness and Identity

Key Points

1.Some of your greatest life problems will not appear as spirits, but will walk into your life on two legs as people problems.
2.God setting a boundary against Assyria in the Book of Nahum serves as a divine model for protecting His people from unrepentant harm.
3.Relational access is a privilege rather than an absolute right, as demonstrated when God restricted Adam and Eve's access to Eden after they mismanaged it.
4.A biblical boundary is a clear and definitive limit set to protect yourself from the actions of those unwilling or unable to change.
5.The absence of healthy boundaries eventually breeds bitterness, and unaddressed bitterness breeds a dangerous desire for revenge.
6.In life, you must make a conscious choice between getting better or getting even, because you cannot pursue both simultaneously.
7.You cannot properly heal emotional wounds in an environment where you are continuously subjected to reinjury.
8.Setting boundaries is not about controlling others or manipulating their feelings, but about declaring what you will do to protect your heart and future.
9.A fence with a gate serves as a healthy metaphor for boundaries, allowing you to choose what to keep out and what to let in.

Sermon Moments

“Some of your greatest problems will not float in your life in spirit form; they will walk in your life on two legs.”

“You mismanage access when you see access as a right and not a privilege.”

“In life you will have to choose between getting better or getting even—you can't do both.”

“You can't heal in a place that keeps getting reinjured.”

“Boundaries don't change people, but boundaries protect your future from people who won't change.”

“Using boundaries as a way to try to change people can easily slide out of influence and into manipulation.”

“I love you just the same out there—I love you from out there.”

“Boundaries aren't a wall; they are a fence, and fences have gates.”

This Week

Identify any unaddressed relational wounds that are creating a subtle desire to seek revenge or 'get even.'
Evaluate your close relationships to see where access has been treated as an automatic right rather than a earned privilege.
Establish clear, healthy boundaries in situations where you are experiencing ongoing emotional reinjury.
Communicate boundaries by focusing on your own protective choices rather than trying to control or manipulate another person's behavior.
Stop confusing relational access with Christian love; learn to love difficult or toxic individuals from a healthy distance.
Guard your heart daily against spiritual warfare aimed at making you lose your care, joy, and emotional capacity.
Pray for wisdom to discern where boundaries are necessary and for the resilience to maintain them consistently.

Remember This

In life you will have to choose between getting better or getting even—you cannot do both.

A Challenge for You

God, would You please heal the brokenhearted and bind up their wounds; give us wisdom to know where to set a boundary, give us wisdom on how to set it, and give us the resilience to hold it once we have set it.

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