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How To Select Your Soulmate

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Oct 20, 2022 • 10 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

To make wise choices in relationships, we must first understand the true nature of our soul as our mind, will, emotions, and affections. A soulmate is not simply a romantic preference, but a God-ordained partner suitable for your soul and necessary for your spiritual assignment. By practicing self-awareness and surrendering our selection process to God, we protect our destiny from distractions dressed up as attractions.

Themes

Relationship SelectionThe SoulSelf-AwarenessGod-Ordained ChoiceWisdom and VulnerabilitySpiritual Assignment

Key Points

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You cannot accurately understand what a soulmate is without first understanding the biblical definition of the soul.
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The soul is the invisible, intangible, psychological, and emotional part of existence, comprising the mind, will, emotions, imaginations, and affections.
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A soulmate is a God-ordained choice that is suitable for your soul and necessary for your life assignment.
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Good decision-making in relationships requires emotional maturity and honest self-awareness.
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God predestines according to His foreknowledge, meaning we must align our choices with what He has already chosen for us.
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Affection creates vulnerability, making it necessary to exercise spiritual wisdom rather than taking reckless emotional risks.
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As your soul prospers, your overall life follows, making relationship selection one of the most consequential decisions you can make.

Sermon Moments

“The soul is the invisible, intangible, psychological, and emotional part of our existence that includes my mind, my will, my emotions, my imaginations, and my affections.”

“A soulmate is a God-ordained pick suitable for my soul and necessary for my assignment.”

“It's hard to have a good relationship with a bad pick.”

“Good decision making begins with having good self-awareness.”

“At some point, people have to own: 'I don't pick good... Jesus, I think you should pick next time.'”

“Affection makes you vulnerable—you can't have intimacy and affection without risk, so you need wisdom.”

“You have too much work to do to keep being detoured by distractions that come dressed as attractions.”

This Week

Develop self-awareness by honestly reflecting on past relationship patterns and acknowledging where you need growth.

Invite God directly into your relationship selection process rather than relying solely on personal preferences.

Guard your heart diligently by setting healthy emotional boundaries before offering your affections.

Evaluate potential partners based on whether they support your spiritual assignment and soul's well-being.

Seek biblical wisdom to make calculated, wise choices rather than taking reckless emotional risks.

Learn to laugh at your own areas of growth instead of staying in shame or deception.

Refuse to let romantic distractions sidetrack you from your daily responsibilities and God-given callings.

Remember This

A true soulmate is a God-ordained partner suitable for your soul and necessary for your assignment, requiring self-awareness and God's wisdom to choose correctly.

A Challenge for You

You have too much work to do to keep being detoured by distractions that come dressed as attractions.

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