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How to Know if Your Friends Are Reliable // Framework For Friendships Part 4

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Jan 9, 2023 • 10 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

You cannot reach your fullest potential alone, making reliable friendships one of your greatest relational assets. Drawing from Proverbs 18:24, Dr. Dharius Daniels explores the essential trait of unmovable reliability and warns that unreliable relationships lead to incremental ruin. God calls believers to move beyond hyper-independence and codependency into godly interdependence, becoming the kind of dependable friend they wish to attract.

Themes

FriendshipReliabilityCommunityInterdependenceRelational Wisdom

Key Points

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You cannot be your best self by yourself; life improves when value-add people enter or relational liabilities exit.
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Friends are your greatest relational asset because they see your authentic self and have permission to speak truth into your life.
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A person who does not take friendship seriously is a person who does not take personal success and growth seriously.
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Proverbs 18:24 warns that unreliable friends cause incremental ruin over time rather than immediate destruction.
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Reliability requires dependability and predictability when the heavy weights of life fall upon a relationship.
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God created believers for interdependence rather than isolated hyper-independence or unhealthy codependency.
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True interdependence means recognizing your need for others while maintaining clarity on personal responsibilities.
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Reliable friends become like family members who simply do not share your last name or physical features.
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Friendship operates under the biblical principle of sowing and reaping; to have reliable friends, you must be a reliable friend.

Sermon Moments

“Every time my life got better, either somebody new that added value came into it, or somebody old that was actually a liability went out of it.”

“A person that doesn't take friendship seriously is a person that doesn't take success seriously.”

“Some things are ruining us incrementally, not immediately. Just because something isn't destroyed right now doesn't mean something destructive isn't happening.”

“You kind of need to think of your friends as chairs from time to time... when the weight of your life falls on them, can you trust them to hold you up?”

“We weren't created to be independent or co-dependent; we were created to be interdependent.”

“When you find people that are reliable, that's like family without your features.”

This Week

Perform an objective analysis of your close friendships to evaluate whether they demonstrate unmovable reliability.

Identify areas where you may be operating in hyper-independence and invite trustworthy friends into your life process.

Examine if you have fallen into codependency by expecting friends to carry responsibilities that belong solely to you.

Practice being a predictable and steady presence for your friends when they face season of hardship.

Establish healthy relational boundaries so you do not assume responsibilities God intended for others to carry.

Pray for spiritual discernment to recognize trustworthy friends and the grace to release destructive relational liabilities.

Intentionally sow faithfulness, honesty, and reliability into your current relationships this week.

Remember This

To build an amazing life God's way, you must cultivate and become a friend who displays unmovable reliability.

A Challenge for You

Take care to sow reliability, dependability, and predictability into the lives of others, trusting God for a harvest of faithful friends in return.

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