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He Doesn't Get A Second Swing

Stephen Chandler

Union Church • Nov 3, 2025 • 50 min

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Summary

In week three of the Broken for Now series, Pastor Stephen Chandler uses the relationship between King Saul and David to illustrate how believers should respond when people throw emotional or verbal spears. He encourages believers to set courageous boundaries, guard their God-given callings, and refrain from taking attacks personally or retaliating. Ultimately, through the power of the Holy Spirit, we are called to choose forgiveness and lay our burdens at the feet of Jesus rather than letting offense consume our lives.

Themes

Guarding Your HeartSetting Healthy BoundariesHoly CourageOvercoming UnforgivenessProtecting God's CallingSpiritual Retaliation vs. Grace

Pastor's Points

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Point 1: Don't just stand there, duck.

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Point 2: Understand the attack isn't about you.

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Point 3: Never throw spears back.

Key Points

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Point 1: Don't just stand there, duck.
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Point 2: Understand the attack isn't about you.
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Point 3: Never throw spears back.
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Believers must stop repeatedly taking emotional blows and instead establish courageous boundaries to protect their God-given destiny.
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Surrounding yourself with constant negativity, drama, and toxic words will eventually poison your soul and corrupt good character.
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You are not abandoning broken loved ones by stepping back; you are stepping ahead to build a place of refuge for when they surrender to God.
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God has given believers a spirit of power, love, and self-discipline rather than timidity, empowering them to face relationship issues boldly.
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When cruel words get through your defenses, take those anxieties directly to God in prayer to receive His peace that guards your mind.

Sermon Moments

“Most people prefer to tolerate mistreatment than to explain the distance.”

“You're protecting a relationship when you should be protecting your destiny and the call of God on your life.”

“Boundaries enrage broken people.”

“You're not abandoning your family; you are making sure that they have a place of refuge to go to when they finally surrender to God.”

“Every time you want to be timid, remind yourself that this is not the spirit of God.”

“I'm not about to forfeit the favor of God on my life crawling down in the dirt with you.”

“Forgiveness doesn't mean reconciliation; it means I'm laying this hurt at the feet of Jesus and not carrying it a day further.”

This Week

Establish healthy boundaries with toxic or negative people, notifying them respectfully when a conversation or behavior crosses the line.

Practice guarding your heart daily by actively monitoring what influences, drama, and negative words you allow into your mind.

When emotional attacks or cruel words pierce your armor, go directly to God in prayer with thanksgiving to receive His peace.

Refuse to retaliate or speak curses back at those who insult or attack you, choosing instead to preserve God's favor on your life.

Fill your mind with scripture and focus your thoughts on whatever is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, and praiseworthy (Philippians 4:8).

Choose to forgive those who have wounded you, releasing revenge to God and trusting Him to execute justice in His timing.

Step out in holy courage rather than operating in timidity or cowardice when addressing difficult relationships and standing up for your calling.

Remember This

Protect your God-given destiny by establishing healthy boundaries and choosing forgiveness rather than allowing toxic attacks to poison your soul or provoke you to retaliate.

A Challenge for You

Make the decision right now to forgive the person who hurt you, release self-condemnation, and accept the free forgiveness offered through Jesus Christ on the cross.

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