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Five Great Qualities of a Friend

7 Hills Church • Oct 27, 2025 • 31 min

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Summary

In this message, Pastor Marcus Mecum highlights five essential qualities of life-giving Christian friendship drawn from the lives of Paul, Ananias, and Barnabas. While relational disappointments and enemies can tempt believers to isolate themselves, true godly friends help us recover by lifting us up, setting us free from past wounds, bringing us into community, leveling us out during times of healing, and searching us out when we are discouraged. Ultimately, believers are called not only to receive this kind of restorative friendship but to become bringers who reflect God's heart to their church and city.

Themes

Godly FriendshipEncouragement and RestorationHealing Past HurtsSpiritual CommunityIntercession and Outreach

Pastor's Points

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1. Paul had an Ananias — They lift us up

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2. We need people that will let us out

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3. We need people that will let us in

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4. We need people that will level us out

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5. A real friend will look you up

Key Points

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Great friends act like Ananias by lifting up others, looking past their troubled history or present struggles to build them up.
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Great friends let us out by helping us move past trauma and grave clothes without keeping us beholden to past debts or seasons of pain.
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Great friends let us in by welcoming us into their inner circle, giving credibility, and offering confidence in God's future for us.
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Great friends level us out by giving us the time and space needed to heal, mature, and process wounds rather than rushing back into conflict or active ministry.
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Great friends look us up by seeking us out when we feel hurt or sidelined to remind us of God's unchanging calling on our lives.
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Even deep relational disappointments and desertions should not cause believers to isolate themselves, but rather to recognize God's faithful presence and value true godly friendships.
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True spiritual encouragers do not point people to themselves but direct them to Jesus, the ultimate foundation who never walks away.
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Believers who are friends of God demonstrate their devotion by becoming friends to their city, interceding for others and actively bringing the lost into community.

Sermon Moments

“Behind every Paul is an Ananias along the way—someone who says you belong before you believe.”

“The best way to lift someone is to say, 'Look past me and see Jesus.' My greatness only goes so far, but He is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

“Like the disciples unwrapping Lazarus, we must be willing to get our hands messy to loose people from the grave clothes of past sin and heartbreak.”

“Sometimes after emotional or spiritual heart surgery, you have to allow God to level you out—giving yourself time and space to heal before rushing back in.”

“A real friend looks you up when you've thrown in the towel and reminds you that God's calling and gifts are without repentance.”

“True friends of God don't just enjoy His presence on Sunday; they become friends to their city by standing in the gap for others during the week.”

“There is a difference between being an inviter and a bringer; a bringer meets people where they are, walks alongside them, and brings them into community.”

This Week

Reach out to an encouraging friend this week and thank them for how they have lifted you up during difficult seasons.

Look past someone's flawed past or current struggle, choosing to build them up and remind them that they belong in God's family.

When offering help to others, always point them to Jesus as their true foundation rather than drawing focus or dependence to yourself.

If you are recovering from past relational or ministry hurts, commit to a season of being "leveled out" to let God fully heal your heart before rushing into action.

Identify a friend or acquaintance who has given up or stepped away from faith, and intentionally search them out to encourage them in their divine calling.

Be a "bringer" rather than just an "inviter" by offering to ride together, meet at the doors, or sit with someone you invite to church this Sunday.

Intercede regularly in prayer for your city, asking God to show you how to demonstrate His love to lost and hurting people in your daily life.

Remember This

God uses godly friends to lift us, heal us, restore our vision, and lead us closer to Jesus, calling us to offer that same faithful friendship to others and our city.

A Challenge for You

Let us be the kind of place that says, 'Put me in the body as it pleases You.' Let us be bringers, lifters, and friends who look people up when they have given up on themselves.

These are personal sermon notes shared to help you remember the message — not a replacement for Scripture, your church, or your pastors.