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Don't Let It Kill You

Dr. E. Dewey Smith Jr

The House of Hope Atlanta • Sep 27, 2026 • 83 min

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Take this message with you through a journey of Scripture, reflection, and prayer.

Summary

In this Men's Day message, Dr. E. Dewey Smith Jr. examines the life and tragic death of Abner in 2 Samuel 3. Although Abner was a skilled warrior and political strategist, King David lamented that he died 'as a fool' because he failed to use his unbound hands, unfettered feet, and strategic discernment. Believers are challenged not to let circumstances, negative mindsets, or dangerous proximity destroy the immense capacity God has placed within them.

Themes

Personal ResponsibilityWisdom and DiscernmentBoundary SettingStewardship of CapacityOvercoming Victims Mindset

Pastor's Points

1.

He underused his ability.

2.

He underutilized his mobility.

3.

He underestimated proximity.

4.

He underachieved even with great capacity.

Key Points

1.
King David wept over Abner because a man of immense skill, power, and lineage died far beneath his potential.
2.
Abner underused his ability by failing to act or defend himself even though his hands were not bound.
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It is often easier to view ourselves as helpless victims than to accept responsibility for what remains within our power to change.
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Abner underutilized his mobility because his feet were not put in fetters, yet he failed to walk or run away from danger.
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Maturity is knowing the difference between a battle God called you to fight and a situation wisdom commands you to flee.
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Abner underestimated proximity by allowing Joab, who had a clear motive for revenge, to pull him aside into a private space.
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Not everything dangerous announces itself as a war; destructive things often approach quietly under the guise of dialogue.
8.
Possessing great God-given capacity does not automatically guarantee growth, wisdom, or survival if it is not stewarded properly.

Sermon Moments

“One of life's greatest tragedies is not merely lacking what you need, but possessing what you need and failing to use it properly.”

“How do you die with unbound hands?”

“Maturity is knowing the difference between something God called you to fight and something wisdom told you to flee.”

“Joab didn't kill Abner on a battlefield... a mighty warrior died because he let somebody get close.”

“Samson didn't lose his power because Delilah was across the way; Samson lost his power because he put his head in the wrong lap.”

“It is possible to possess great capacity and still produce beneath your potential. Gift does not automatically produce growth.”

“Abner had skills, but he didn't have the Holy Spirit. Abner knew Joab, but he didn't know Jesus.”

This Week

Take ownership of your decisions by identifying areas where your hands are free to act rather than remaining in a victim mindset.

Walk away from toxic arguments, destructive environments, or compromising situations that threaten your spiritual future.

Audit who and what you allow into close proximity, setting firm boundaries with people or habits that trigger your downfall.

Schedule routine preventative health appointments to practice practical stewardship over your physical body.

Refuse to let family health struggles or past trauma dictate your future expectations and mindset.

Stop focusing on past disappointments or critics, and shift your attention to stewarding the tools God has currently given you.

Rely on the dwelling power of the Holy Spirit for daily discernment and strength to walk in your full kingdom potential.

Remember This

Do not die beneath your potential or let destructive situations kill you when God has blessed you with unbound hands, unfettered feet, and the Holy Spirit within.

A Challenge for You

Don't let what you refuse to confront destroy what God gave you the capacity to become—hold your head up, take authority in Christ, and live to the fullest of your God-given ability.

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