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5 Types of People Pain You Should Understand

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Feb 2, 2024 • 13 min

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Summary

Pain in relationships is an inevitable reality of living in an imperfect world, coming through unappreciation, amnesia, entitlement, betrayal, and disappointment. Because reacting impulsively while in pain often causes more damage than the hurt itself, believers must proactively establish a pain plan during times of spiritual strength. By deciding in advance what not to do, where to run for help, and how to scripturally reframe trials, believers can protect their hearts and move forward in grace.

Themes

Relational HealingProcessing PainBiblical ReframingWisdom in RelationshipsSpiritual Preparedness

Pastor's Points

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1. Unappreciation

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2. Amnesia

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3. Entitlement

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4. Betrayal

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5. Disappointment

Key Points

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1. Unappreciation: People fail to properly value or recognize the distinct contribution you make in their lives.
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2. Amnesia: People who once valued and honored your investment forget what you did for them in a new season.
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3. Entitlement: People feel you owe them your service or generosity rather than viewing it as a gift.
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4. Betrayal: Another person's emotional immaturity or ethical deficiency causes relational, emotional, or financial harm.
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5. Disappointment: Unmet reasonable expectations or a lack of return on your personal investment in others creates heartbreak.
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Your greatest joy and your greatest pain in life will often come from the same source: people.
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Wisdom reduces pain, but living in an imperfect world surrounded by imperfect people makes pain unavoidable.

Sermon Moments

“Your greatest joy and your greatest pain in life is going to come from the same place: people.”

“Pain is a consequence of living in an imperfect world, making imperfect decisions, and being impacted by imperfect people.”

“Just because all of us are equally valuable in the eyes of God doesn't mean everybody adds equal value to you.”

“Your goodness never makes you immune to betrayal. Jesus was perfect and still got betrayed.”

“If you fail to plan, you plan to fail. You need a pain plan.”

“You got to make decisions in your time of strength so that you protect yourself from yourself in your time of weakness.”

“How you frame it determines how you fight it, and how you fight it determines if you actually fix it.”

“People's reaction to pain does way more damage in their life than pain itself.”

This Week

Develop a proactive pain plan now while you are in a season of emotional and spiritual strength.

Decide in advance what you will NOT do when hurt, refusing self-destructive behavior or actions that compromise your Christian witness.

Identify trusted spiritual resources to run to during hurt, such as God's Word, prayer, trusted Christian friends, or professional counseling.

Practice biblical reframing by declaring Romans 8:28 over your hurt, recognizing that God can work all things together for your good.

Guard yourself against expecting immunity from betrayal, remembering that even perfect management of relationships cannot prevent others' choices.

Avoid making major life decisions or over-disclosing personal matters while operating in emotional pain.

Examine your own heart for relational entitlement and actively express gratitude to those who invest in your life.

Remember This

Your reaction to relational pain can do far more damage than the hurt itself, which is why you must establish a scriptural pain plan during seasons of strength.

A Challenge for You

People's reaction to pain does way more damage in their life than pain itself. This is why we need a pain plan, especially when dealing with pain from people. Make the decision today to develop yours.

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