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4 Things I Would Tell My Daughter about Men // Men Confuse Love and Lust // Part 2

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Mar 6, 2023 • 9 min

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Summary

In this message, Dr. Dharius Daniels addresses how men often confuse love with lust, explaining that temporary physical curiosity is frequently mistaken for a deep emotional connection. He teaches that real love is a connection of souls rather than a union of bodies, and that patience and willingness to wait are true indicators of genuine love. Furthermore, he encourages believers never to allow relationship mistakes or heartbreaks to define their worth, but to let those painful moments become defining turning points toward wiser choices and godly standards.

Themes

Love versus LustSoul ConnectionEmotional IntelligencePatience and WaitingOvercoming Relationship MistakesParental Wisdom

Pastor's Points

1.

Love is not enough.

2.

Sometimes men confuse love and lust.

Key Points

1.
Sometimes men confuse love and lust, mistaking temporary physical curiosity for a genuine emotional connection.
2.
While some men are intentionally deceptive to gain physical intimacy, others are sincerely confused, believing they feel love until physical curiosity is satisfied.
3.
When physical curiosity is satisfied without a real spiritual bond, feelings fade because the foundation was lust rather than love.
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True emotional intelligence allows a person to discern between physical attraction and genuine love without relying on physical intimacy.
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Real love connects with a person's soul, whereas physical attraction focuses on the body, which naturally changes over time.
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A man who genuinely loves and respects a woman will be willing to wait for physical intimacy within godly boundaries.
7.
Past relationship mistakes do not define a believer's identity; instead, they can become defining moments that establish healthy boundaries for the future.

Sermon Moments

“There are times when men confuse love with lust. They thought they felt one thing until they got what they wanted physically, and when curiosity was no longer there, the emotion was no longer there.”

“What you fall in love with is the soul. You're attracted to the body, but if you're with anybody long-term, the body's going to change.”

“Real love is a connection of the soul; it is a tying of the soul, not just the union of the body.”

“If he loves you enough to wait, he loves you. Nobody is waiting that long just for physical gratification.”

“You can define yourself by this mistake, or this can be a defining moment for you where you make a decision: this is a feeling I will never feel again.”

This Week

Examine your relationship motives to ensure you are seeking a connection with a person's soul rather than just physical attraction.

Develop emotional intelligence by evaluating relationships based on character and shared values rather than physical feelings.

Establish clear personal and physical boundaries early in dating to protect your heart and soul.

Value patience in a romantic partner, recognizing that willingness to wait is a strong evidence of true love.

Refuse to let past relationship mistakes, shame, or regret define your self-worth or identity.

Allow past emotional pain to serve as a defining moment to set higher standards and avoid repeating hurtful patterns.

Seek godly wisdom and sound counsel when navigating complex relationship decisions and emotional heartbreaks.

Remember This

Real love is a lasting connection of souls rather than a temporary union of bodies, and past relationship mistakes should serve as defining moments toward wisdom rather than definitions of your worth.

A Challenge for You

Refuse to let past relationship mistakes define your identity; instead, let those painful feelings become a defining moment where you decide never to settle for less than genuine, soul-connected love.

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