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4 Reasons You Need to BREAK UP!

Dr Dharius Daniels

Change Church • Jul 4, 2023 • 13 min

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Summary

In this message, Dr. Dharius Daniels addresses common challenges in dating, offering wisdom on how to exit a relationship before it breaks your soul. God calls every believer to be a wise steward of their mind, will, and emotions, which means discerning when a dynamic has become destructive. Through four practical principles, believers are encouraged to protect both themselves and others by making godly, healthy decisions in dating.

Themes

Relational StewardshipSoul CareDiscernment in DatingPersonal ResponsibilityBoundaries and Emotional Health

Pastor's Points

1.

Break up if the relationship is breaking you.

2.

Break up if you are breaking them.

3.

Break up if a problem has now become a prolonged pattern.

4.

Break up if the way that they are living their life is destroying yours.

Key Points

1.
Break up if the relationship is breaking you.
2.
You are responsible before God for stewarding your own soul—your mind, will, emotions, imaginations, and affections.
3.
Do not conflate godly self-sacrifice with self-destructive behavior.
4.
God does not have to destroy you in order to develop someone else.
5.
Break up if you are breaking them.
6.
Truly loving someone means protecting them, which sometimes means protecting them from you when you are not relationship-ready.
7.
Break up if a problem has now become a prolonged pattern.
8.
It requires far more intentionality, prayer, and resilience to break a prolonged pattern than to fix an isolated problem.

Sermon Moments

“Many people confuse being self-sacrificing with self-destructive behavior.”

“God doesn't have to destroy you to develop them.”

“I want to love them so well that I'm going to protect them from them, which right now means protecting them from me.”

“When the problem becomes a pattern, now the pattern is the problem.”

“Is she judging the pig? No... she just knows, 'that don't work for me.'”

This Week

Take inventory of your current relationship to evaluate whether it is building up your soul or eroding it.

Reflect on whether you are confusing biblical self-sacrifice with staying in a self-destructive dynamic.

Honestly assess your own emotional readiness to ensure you are not bringing unhealed toxicity into someone else's life.

Differentiate between isolated, fixable mistakes in your relationship and recurring, harmful patterns.

Stop trying to spiritually justify remaining in abuse or dysfunction under the guise that God wants to use you to change them.

Practice discernment without judgment by assessing if a partner's lifestyle aligns with your walk with God.

Commit to being a faithful steward of your mind, emotions, and values throughout every stage of dating.

Remember This

You are accountable for stewarding your own soul, so you must have the courage to walk away when a dating relationship becomes destructive.

A Challenge for You

Make sure that you are a good steward of what you are responsible for—and that is your own soul.

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